Collaring Ceremony (based on the Ceremony of the Roses)

Collaring Ceremony of Mommie Marshmallow & pet

1.                  pet wears white and holds white rose, petals closed.  pet is also wearing training collar.

2.                  Mommie wears black and holds red rose, petals opened.

3.                  Candles are already lit.

4.                  Couple faces each other.

5.                  Mommie removes training collar, then places it next to formal collar and picks up formal collar.  She then passes formal collar quickly through the flame and then places it on pet’s neck, making declaration that She will protect and guide him for all of eternity.

Mommie:

“With this collar, I bind you to me with chains of unbreakable love, to guide you and protect you for all eternity.”

6.                  With thorn on stem of Her red rose, She pricks pet’s middle finger and lets two drops of his blood fall onto the petals of his white rose.

7.                  pet then offers the thorn on the stem of his rose and Mommie pricks Her middle finger and lets two drops of blood fall onto the petals of the white rose: one alone, and one on top of one of his drops.

8.                  Mommie and pet press their fingers together, and make their vows to be joined by blood.

Pet:

For the submissive that i am 

”For all that i am 
And all that i will become,
i give wholly myself to You.
my needs are but natural,
And my devotion extreme,
i hope this pleases You.
Patience, kindness and compassion,
With humor and honesty,
Are just a simple few i need.
Wisdom, Courage and trust,
With confidence and self esteem,
Just know i’ll let You lead.
If You hear my soul yearning,
When my body is trembling,
i know You’ll keep me safe.
When You take thorough control
Of my body , mind and soul,
Ensure You will have my faith.
If You’re obliged to correct me,
As i’ve deviated from Your desire,
i’ll understand You’ll use a protective glove.
i will feel Your forgiveness,
Reassurance, approval and respect.
In all Your kindness, understanding, and love.
For all that i am 
And all that i will become,
i give wholly myself to You.”

9.                  They then take the chain (from the pillow), pass it quickly through the flame and join opposite hands and wrap the chain around their unified wrists.

10.              They again make their vows to be bound by their souls for eternity.

Mommie:

For the Domme that I am 

”For all that I am 
And all that I will become,
I pledge wholly Myself to you.
My needs are but natural,
And My devotion extreme,
I hope this comforts and soothes you.
Patience, kindness and compassion,
With humor and honesty,
Are just a simple few I offer.
Wisdom, Courage and Trust,
With confidence and Self control,
Just know I’ll lead you.
you will feel My soul calling,
My body’s hungers,
you know I’ll keep you safe.
When I take thorough control
Of your body, mind, and soul,
Ensured I will have your faith.
If I must correct you,
As you’ve deviated from My desire,
You’ll understand I use a protective glove of Love.
you will feel My forgiveness,
Reassurance, Approval and Respect.
In all My Kindness, Understanding and love.
For all that I am 
And all that I will become,
I pledge wholly Myself to you.”

11.              The roses are touched together, letting the blood on his white rose kiss the petals of Her red rose.  The roses are then exchanged.

Both:

“W/we are now bound by the chains of O/our unbreakable love.”

12.              The chain is removed and then carefully wrapped in a cloth to be given to the couple after the ceremony.

13.              pet hands his rose to Mommie and kneels before Mommie, kissing her feet and sucking briefly on each toe.

14.              The roses are placed in a single vase and will later be taken by the couple to their private chamber as a reminder to them as they contemplate their future together, while joining their bodies.

15.              Before joining their bodies in bed, Mommie flogs pet with Her flogger.  Each blow is to be delivered forcefully, on the backside and back, one blow for each year the couple has been together.  Each year afterward, on this day, this will be repeated, adding one more blow for the intervening year.

16.              In the morning they share their hopes and dreams of being together for eternity and pluck the petals from the roses and place them in a special container.  These petals will be kept until the end of the couple’s lifetime.  Portions of each will be buried with each partner in death.

17.              The chain will pass down to family or an honored friend, possibly to be used again in another Ceremony of the Roses.

Symbolism of the Ceremony of the Roses:

The Symbolism Revealed

 The significance of the roses

The white rose, still not in full bloom, symbolizes his submission. The white color represents the purity of his gift, while the still slightly closed petals show that his submission has not come into full bloom. It never will. Submission is ever deepening, ever growing and the submissive will never reach a place where he cannot open a bit more for his Dominant. The red rose, almost fully open, signifies her dominance. The red represents her passion and desire to posses and protect him at all costs, though it may require her to spill her blood to do so. The rose is almost in full bloom to symbolize that she is ready and mature enough to accept the responsibilities required of her.

In older times, the collar would have been made of metal and heated to a glow and plunged into cold water to temper it after it was burned of all impurities. This action symbolized the removing of all impurities from the circle of ownership provided by the Dominant. All outside influences are burned away in the heat of her desire to protect and defend her submissive. The tempering of the metal that takes place when plunged into cold water shows the strengthening of their commitment by submersion into the waters of life. Today we only symbolize this by passing the collar quickly though the flame, taking care not to damage it. (Note: The use of an alcohol burner in place of a candle prevents any carbon residue from getting on the collar, although there will probably be none if the action is performed quickly enough.)

 The significance of the blood:

Pricking the finger of the submissive is symbolic of taking his virginity. He has shed blood to give himself completely to her. The drops on the white rose also speak of the same thing. In pricking her own finger, the dominant shows her willingness to shed her blood to protect and defend him by virtue of her ownership. The drops on his rose show that vividly; the drop that falls on his blood covers it and blends with it, thus indicating their union. Pressing the wounds from the thorns together allows their blood to mix, joining them as strongly as their own family blood-lines. They are now of the same flesh and blood. Exchanging the roses is symbolic of their gift of themselves to each other

 The significance of the chain:

The chain is a series of links that represent all the events that have led them to be joined. Each one interlocks with another to complete the chain. Passing it through the flame symbolizes the purification of all the events in their time together as well as their pasts. All bad things are burned away into forgetfulness and only the good remains. Wrapping the chain around them gives a visual image of the binding together of two souls into one. This chain is never used for anything again, other than in a similar ceremony by the person who receives this chain as a gift. They are often passed down for decades or even centuries and are honored by those fortunate enough to receive such a gift.

 The significance of the petals:

The mixture of the petals signifies the mixing and blending of their lives. Couples often keep them in a decorative jar, once the petals have dried completely. Upon death, a portion of those petals are placed with the body to show a bond that will extend beyond the grave. Many legends are told of roses that have sprung up on the graves of couples who have loved so strongly during their physical lifetime that even in death they sent back evidence of their everlasting love in the form of roses that bloom again on the graves.